A friend shared this post and a simple nod and like is not enough.
I know a lot of people in today's hectic and fast life would not share the same values as I would share on this post, but I want to share anyway.
I don't know why people would not love this idea of being in a relationship.
To ultimately relax your thoughts and emotions to know that someone will be there for you.
To me that shows love and affection in many more ways.
So the below post follows a strong opinion and ever a fear of mine as well:
Today you see so many people going in and out of relationships as quickly as swiping on a Tinder search.
The world is going way too fast and people don't stop to really admire someone for what happiness a true investment between two people can offer.
Two people who are so connected through thick and thin and still hold hands when they are old. A long solid history can only be built once through determination and true love.
How rare and amazing is it to actually tell a story of how you two have grown old together and experienced the world at one another's side?
No one is perfect and people do have different opinions.
Even if you argue and fight, it is how much you love someone that makes you both stay.
To me that shows a better and stronger sense of love and character, rather than running to new "options".
It seems that a lot of kids (because let's face it... not a lot of people seem to mature these days in terms of friendship, love and commitment) grow up to want to make people like them.
I would also like everyone to like me... but it isn't possible with everyone.
You could always improve the friendships you already have instead of thinning yourself out to those who don't appreciate the real you.
This causes a lot of people to run around and look for new friends and appreciation, often feeling empty and feeling the need to meet as many people as possible or jumping in and out of relationships.
Often how you manage yourself in terms of self-respect is how you would show love to your loved ones.
Letting go of stress and anxiety of making people like you can make a lot of room to accept love into your life. This goes as broad as loving family and friends more as well.Spending too much energy and gifts on people who don't really want you in their life isn't worth it. You will find happiness giving your energy and time to those who appreciates you, and you will receive the same back.
Letting some people go doesn't always make you a stronger person, sometimes arseholes can let people go just as easy. Those arseholes are the ones that used people for the time being for their values and willingness for other to simply like them back.
Even if you look at social media, how many people are chasing after the fact to simply be liked by many. It is all very impersonal really...
For the many people out there struggling to let people go, even if you are aware of the stress and anxiety some people cause, don't be afraid to let go of them.
It takes humility to recognize the differences. Being aware you are stressed is already one step in the right direction. To ultimately let go of a person takes a lot of self-respect as you are not doing it for yourself only, but for both parties.
It is like a muscle that needs to be trained. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes. It will be difficult at first, but it will only become easier. Just like the first time saying no to something. ;)
So climb aboard the gain train!
Exercise your self-worth and respect muscle a little more.
Everything starts small with baby steps, but soon you will find yourself where you always wanted to be in life ;)
I also think the reason people want to feel loved is simply because of that statement...
They need to change it and want to *be* loved instead.
It happens a lot where somebody is in a relationship. Meet someone else and then they only tell the person they are with once their secondary relationship is ready to become their primary.
You don't always have to sleep with someone to commit adultery.
Being on an mental and emotional flutter between people is also considered cheating if you are not loyal and honest to the one you're with.
For the person left behind they will always have the question "why him/her and not me?"
When an emotional and mental tie breaks within you then you should be the better person and admit it. But people do stupid things because they are scared of being alone (or the lack of dopamine they would experience because of it)
So what if they tell the current person they don't want to continue to be in a relationship and then it does not work out with their new choice they had in mind? You can't go back again because even then in your mind you know you'll always be on the look out for someone else if you're willing to have let them go in the first place?
So people stick by and don't tell the other person. When that happens, you should already know you've created a Plan B person.
That's just awful but nobody (of the dishonest) wants to admit it.
I say "dishonest" because if you're inclined or thinking of wanting to date someone else while being in a relationship, it makes you a cheater. Doesn't matter what level of cheater you are.
If you aren't happy you should voice it.
This is one of my fears. Meeting these fast-paced people of today who wants to "feel" loved by many... if you now understand my meaning by that.
Meeting someone with solid values and morals to love (even etiquette) is of more valuable to me than her weight in platinum would EVER be!
I'd rather go on adventures and do 40 things with 1 person than do a lot of different things with 40 different people.
The safety to know that that special person you love so much would always support you even pointing out your faults and helping you to better yourself.
The perfect superhero duo,
two people fighting for the same,
two people not giving up,
two people tackling the world,
two people growing old together,
two people creating a story...
Two people in love.
And that is how it should be...
